Adams Autism Family

Parents to children with Autism who are struggling with meltdowns, did you know? I didn’t. No one told me. I wished I had known this much earlier when Adam started to have meltdowns during his early teens. And even when I got to know some 10 years ago, I took a long time to adapt, adjust, and implement. I was still losing my temper when things got a little too intense. After all, Daddy had bad days too. Alhamdulillah, my prayers were answered. My unconditional love for my son prevailed.

Kami merancang, Allah menentukan. Segalanya dah tertulis. Mungkin takdir namanya... Jangan cepat menghukum, usah stereotype. Bukan semua orang Islam benci anjing tapi... #straydog #rescuedog #doggo #anjing #kucing #straycat #rescuecat #bekind #animalrescue #fate #kindness

Dawn be like... when Adam stays up all night, daddy & mommy take turns to watch him... Cerita pagi raya gitu.... Adam tak tidur sampai subuh... mommy daddy koyak dah, dia masih bersemangat... #autismparents

Semenjak Adam lari drp saya hari tu dan lompat ke dalam kolam kat taman dikawasan perumahan kami, saya dah risau berjalan dengan dia sendiri. Sebab kakak dan adik dia selalu sibuk, saya terfikir apa kata saya ajar seekor anjing berjalan dengan Adam. Fifi adalah anjing rescue yg kami dah foster selama 3 tahun, masih tak dapat mencarikan dia adopter yg sesuai. Fifi adalah anjing yang setia dan protective, sentiasa menjaga rumah kami dengan baik. Dengan adanya leash dan harness istimewa drp @thecollarbone.co dan demi keselamatan Adam, saya mula buat training tuk Fifi berjalan dengan dia. Mudah mudahan akan menghalang Adam drp tiba tiba nak pecut lari. Drp dulu lagi mommy sentiasa cakap “what if we can have a specially trained service dog to accompany, protect, and serve Adam...”. #rescuedog #servicedog #autism

Mula2 ingat huskies… tapi bukan… kami lalu depan Subang Parade ternampak 2 ekor alaskan malamute crossing the busy road at Subang without their owner. Kami cepat buat U-Turn cuba nak selamatkan mereka drp dilanggar kereta and roam further. Passer-by who knew the owner saw us and alerted the her. Tuan anjing2 ni sampai about 20 minit camtu. #malamute #rescuedog

Kita bawa Adam beraya dengan Auntie Azah, kawan baik mommy dari zaman kolej. This is why we are selective and can’t easily raya at any open house invitations. After all, I spend the whole time keeping an eye on Adam than socializing. Pretty stressful at times. Baik duduk kat rumah. Jiwa daddy lebih tenang. 😅

Adam tolong kasi stretch sikit seluar jeans mommy yg dah tak muat mommy... 😅 Mcm mcm Adam ni, pakai jeans mommy dia plak. Sabar ye mommy, Adam nak makan kat luar sempena celebrate mother’s day. Jom! Adam tried to put on his mommy’s jeans... 😅

Dah lama teringin nak ganti dining set especially our wooden chairs sebab banyak dah rosak, kaki dah tak even, screw dah hilang, dikerjakan oleh Adam selama 9 tahun 😅 We love solid wood furnitures. Nowadays design semua cantik cantik, selalu juga scrolling kat social media. @Woodman.my adalah antara syarikat2 perabot yang selalu juga posting kat sm. Walaupun showroom dan gudang mereka berada di Batu Pahat Johor, mereka boleh hantar satu Malaysia kecuali Sabah Sarawak. Kami pilih 2 design, Silva dan Noble. Kerusi kayu jati ni lebih berat, sesuai tuk Adam. Guys, kalau korang nak dapatkan apa2 dari Woodman Malaysia, mention Adam’s Autism Family tuk dapatkan 10-15% diskaun. Secara jujur, workmanship terbaik, service pun friendly.

I love helping my 24-year-old son with his meals. It brings me so much happiness, even though he is perfectly capable of feeding himself. Daddy just likes to take care of him while he still can.

Saya bukan ayah Adam je... Apa pun #jj tetap onz. Cuba jadi ayah sporting tuk Ara (adik Adam... 😅) sebab nak minta tolong Ara buat live tuk jual kurta Adam nanti.

Orang selalu tanya saya, “Apa akan jadi pada Adam bila saya dah tiada nanti?” Jawapan saya sentiasa sama, “Saya pun tak tahu… tapi yang saya pasti, anak saya sudah ada tiket ke Syurga. Dunia ini terlalu sementara. Apa pun yang terjadi, kita semua akan pergi juga. Siapa dulu? Kita tak tahu. Jadi selagi saya masih ada, saya akan hadir sepenuhnya untuk dia setiap hari, dan terus pegang amanah ini sebaik mungkin sebagai ayahnya. Cuba jalani hidup yang diredhai bersama dia.” InsyaAllah, bila saat itu tiba, kita tak perlu tunggu lama sangat untuk bersama semula. People always asked me “What’s going to happen to Adam when you are no longer around?” My answer is always, “I have no idea but what I do know is my son already has a ticket to Syurga.” Dunia is too temporary. Come what may, we all will go. Who first? We don’t know. So for every single day I still have, I will show up for him 100%, and continue to hold my amanah the best I can as his dad. Try to live a righteous life with him. InsyaAllah we wont need to wait for each other too long when the time comes.

Susah gila #jj ni 😅 entah berapa take sampai Ara dah penat nak ajar 😂 walaupun tak perfect, bagi lah support demi usaha org tua ni nak cuba memahami jiwa org mudah kini...

We don’t have to be perfect to be inclusive. All God’s creation have a right and purpose on earth... animals alike. Be kind to all. Kita tidak perlu menjadi sempurna untuk diterima secara inklusif. Semua ciptaan Tuhan ada hak dan tujuan di dunia… termasuk haiwan. Buat baik kepada semua. #adamsautismfamily

Daddy is tired... #autismparents #autism #caregiver #friendship #father #burnout

Kadang2 anak2 biasa pun tak pasti membantu mak & ayah... Walaupun ujian hebat menjaga Adam, doa dan harapan mommy daddy tuk Adam sentiasa ada di hati... INSYAALLAH. We hosted a small get-together at our place yesterday, so-called little raya open house began at noon and lasted until midnight. Adam pitched in after a long but wonderful day. #anaksyurga #autismparents #autism #helpinghand

#jj gen Z + gen X

Sebab ada yg tanya mana Adam, Ara ajak buat lagi #jj dengan ada Adam dlm frame…

Nowadays, the main goal is to find happiness and appreciate the blessings we have while navigating through the ups and downs of life with Adam. I like to call it “adamization” 😅. It took a long time, but embracing this journey has allowed me to be vulnerable and focus on the things and moments that truly matter, rather than getting lost in the chaos of comparison and expectations. Each day brings new challenges, but I now view them as blessings as well, and opportunities for self-growth and connection with Adam. I don’t have all the correct answers. I wasn’t built to be perfect. As we cry, laugh, rise, and fall, let’s find joy in the little things that once seemed insignificant. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, let’s do today while we still can. Life is too short to be petty about things we have no control over... or do we? Well I guess its up to each individual. I’m just more at peace this way, InsyaAllah. Alhamdulillah for everything.

”Adam cepatlah masuk dalam mandi… kita nak beraya lagi… “ I have been trying to persuade Adam to enter the house for the past 30 minutes. Finally, Ara stepped in to assist. As often is the case, our plan to go out for Raya today has been postponed. Punctuality has consistently posed a challenge for us. I used to become anxious about it. Nowadays I set appointments with caution and selectivity. Unfortunately, not everyone understands. We are frequently perceived as difficult and challenging to collaborate with. #autismparents #autismfamily

Adam’s been having another phase of sleepless nights, four days now, and he only manages to fall asleep around 4am. I’ve come to accept that this is part of our journey. The thing is he wants my company when he’s up. He doesn’t realise it, daddy’s running on less these days. I used to be able to stay up and sometime even get some work done... now, not so much. My brain shuts down after midnight. But I’ve learned to take it one night at a time. One moment at a time. This isn’t about being a good father. It’s about doing what I still can. If not me than who? Mommy needs to wake up early for Ara. Generally I will sleep in till Adam wakes up. Tac-team so to speak. To any parent walking a similar path — I see you. You’re not alone. We do what we can, with what we have, for the ones we love most.